In order to trust the soul must be humble and loving.
Ask for the grace with a believing, fervent heart. Live your life dependent on grace. This is the doorway to trust.
Your surrender is complete when you are able to accept whatever the outcome maybe.
Heaven's purpose may seem obscure, but if you love enough, you will not demand to know the reason for every event.
Trust is the testing ground of love.
When you surrender your problems, your fears, and all your misgivings to trust, you no longer see these problems, but only the trust.
Simply do everything for love of God. Then do not fear and doubt.
Trust and courage go hand in hand. Fear opposes trust.
When you are hopeful, God is able to lead you in TRUST.
Love, trust, surrender and pearc follow in this order. The more Holy Love comes to perfection in your heart, the more you trust- the more you surrender, the more you are at peace.
When you trust only in yourselves and your own effors, you lost sight of the present moment, and you lost sight of the path of Holy Love.
When you forget about yourself, you are able to trust God. When you focus on your own problems, you call them back into your heart instead of surrending them to God.
The soul must be deep in faith, hope, and love, for thest three beget trust. Trust bears the fruit of courage.
2011年3月29日 星期二
2011年3月28日 星期一
12個瞭解高我的步驟
01.我承認，我就是我的詮釋，那個小我是不合理的，而且使得我的生命充滿折磨。
02.我相信有一股力量存在我的智慧之中，比我的我執更加強大。那股力量是超越我本身、卻存在我裡面的，是我的高我，擁有充滿愛的神在其中。
03.我已經瞭解也決定改變我的意願，將我的生命交由神。
04.我發現我的思想和感覺，知道他們大部分都是與我的小我有關，因此不再去信服他們。
05.我承認我用各種行為來造成對自我和世界的痛苦。我並不想要造成痛苦，我只是渴望追尋愛和舒適。儘管如此，我的行為有限制性的、不自覺反應的。
06.我完完全全準備好以高我的形式存在，原諒所有我做過的。
07.我謙卑地請求優雅神性，好讓我可以保持覺察。
08.我知道我對我自己和他人付出的愛有所保留，因為我的有所選擇的條件。
09.我接受我自己和他人的限制，也接受在我們之中的神性。
10.我選擇活在當下，而當我的小我開始遊走，我會適當的逮到自己。
11.透過瑜伽和冥想，我調整跟自己身心靈的連結，所以我可能接受光的指引，以高我的形式行動。
12.以下列步驟建立精神記憶：我活在孩童的自在和喜悅中，適當時我把這個訊息帶給其他人。
02.我相信有一股力量存在我的智慧之中，比我的我執更加強大。那股力量是超越我本身、卻存在我裡面的，是我的高我，擁有充滿愛的神在其中。
03.我已經瞭解也決定改變我的意願，將我的生命交由神。
04.我發現我的思想和感覺，知道他們大部分都是與我的小我有關，因此不再去信服他們。
05.我承認我用各種行為來造成對自我和世界的痛苦。我並不想要造成痛苦，我只是渴望追尋愛和舒適。儘管如此，我的行為有限制性的、不自覺反應的。
06.我完完全全準備好以高我的形式存在，原諒所有我做過的。
07.我謙卑地請求優雅神性，好讓我可以保持覺察。
08.我知道我對我自己和他人付出的愛有所保留，因為我的有所選擇的條件。
09.我接受我自己和他人的限制，也接受在我們之中的神性。
10.我選擇活在當下，而當我的小我開始遊走，我會適當的逮到自己。
11.透過瑜伽和冥想，我調整跟自己身心靈的連結，所以我可能接受光的指引，以高我的形式行動。
12.以下列步驟建立精神記憶：我活在孩童的自在和喜悅中，適當時我把這個訊息帶給其他人。
2011年3月25日 星期五
2011年3月23日 星期三
改善關係的10個技巧
根據Gary Chapman博士的研究，有五種愛的語言：肯定語、花時間培養感情、收受禮物、付出的表現、以及身體的觸碰。
10個改善關係的技巧：
1.用愛填滿你伴侶的心
詢問伴侶，「我今天可以怎麼做讓你感覺被愛和讚賞？」開始建立一項清單，記錄最有效的方法，很快你會更了解他們愛的主要語言。假使你願意也認同他們的建議，投入去實現你伴侶的期望。
2.聆聽配偶的批評
伴侶的批評就是了解他們愛的主要語言的線索。人們會大聲批評伴侶的某一方面，是因為那方面就是他們內心深處的情感需求。
3.愛的語言：身體的觸碰
記得，可以帶給你莫大愉悅的觸碰，不一定也能帶給你伴侶相同感受。詢問對方的回應「你喜歡我這樣碰觸你嗎？或者你喜歡我怎麼做」
4.愛的語言：花時間培養感情
每一種語言都有獨特的方言，愛的語言也是。相處時間的方言就是指相處時方式。請對方這樣造句「當...的時候我感覺到我伴侶最多的愛」，然後，當你們都完成了，讀給彼此聽。
5.愛的語言：肯定語
我們都需要鼓勵的話語，即使那並不是愛的主要語言。「你喜歡這頓晚餐嗎？」或者「你覺得這個點子怎麼樣？」如果你透過詢問來聆聽你的伴侶。你或許有時會聽到對方說「你也不給我一點意見」。很明顯的，你需要給伴侶更多的肯定。每天找一些事情來肯定對方。
6.愛的語言：接受禮物
即使配偶的愛的主要語言不是禮物，偶爾還是要送他們東西。這跟「重要性」的概念有關，不管是什麼方式的禮物，都是愛的語言。例如，寫一張充滿讚美的卡片，也是一種兩全其美的方式。
7.愛的語言：付出的表現
你的伴侶關係中都是誰付出的比較多？你會主動為你的伴侶做些什麼？你真的了解你的伴侶為你做的付出嗎？簡單的說，去了解已經擁有的。
8.至少每週有點變化
至少每週一次，計畫給你伴侶一些驚喜，並且注意他們的反應。用本子記錄這些事情，還有他們的感受，他們的接受程度。這會讓你清楚你在伴侶的情感銀行中存進了多少存款，並且得到最多的回報。
9.愛就是給予「他們」真正需要的
通常我們會不自覺掉進一個陷阱－－用我們喜歡的方式對待對方。愛就是了解他們的喜惡，並且給予他們所需；相對於我們自己也是一樣。
10.如果不懂，就發問！
不管你們在一起多久，開始了解你的伴侶永遠不嫌晚。敢於詢問他們喜歡的、讚賞的、渴望的...如果你記性不好，寫下來好讓你能隨時查看。
10個改善關係的技巧：
1.用愛填滿你伴侶的心
詢問伴侶，「我今天可以怎麼做讓你感覺被愛和讚賞？」開始建立一項清單，記錄最有效的方法，很快你會更了解他們愛的主要語言。假使你願意也認同他們的建議，投入去實現你伴侶的期望。
2.聆聽配偶的批評
伴侶的批評就是了解他們愛的主要語言的線索。人們會大聲批評伴侶的某一方面，是因為那方面就是他們內心深處的情感需求。
3.愛的語言：身體的觸碰
記得，可以帶給你莫大愉悅的觸碰，不一定也能帶給你伴侶相同感受。詢問對方的回應「你喜歡我這樣碰觸你嗎？或者你喜歡我怎麼做」
4.愛的語言：花時間培養感情
每一種語言都有獨特的方言，愛的語言也是。相處時間的方言就是指相處時方式。請對方這樣造句「當...的時候我感覺到我伴侶最多的愛」，然後，當你們都完成了，讀給彼此聽。
5.愛的語言：肯定語
我們都需要鼓勵的話語，即使那並不是愛的主要語言。「你喜歡這頓晚餐嗎？」或者「你覺得這個點子怎麼樣？」如果你透過詢問來聆聽你的伴侶。你或許有時會聽到對方說「你也不給我一點意見」。很明顯的，你需要給伴侶更多的肯定。每天找一些事情來肯定對方。
6.愛的語言：接受禮物
即使配偶的愛的主要語言不是禮物，偶爾還是要送他們東西。這跟「重要性」的概念有關，不管是什麼方式的禮物，都是愛的語言。例如，寫一張充滿讚美的卡片，也是一種兩全其美的方式。
7.愛的語言：付出的表現
你的伴侶關係中都是誰付出的比較多？你會主動為你的伴侶做些什麼？你真的了解你的伴侶為你做的付出嗎？簡單的說，去了解已經擁有的。
8.至少每週有點變化
至少每週一次，計畫給你伴侶一些驚喜，並且注意他們的反應。用本子記錄這些事情，還有他們的感受，他們的接受程度。這會讓你清楚你在伴侶的情感銀行中存進了多少存款，並且得到最多的回報。
9.愛就是給予「他們」真正需要的
通常我們會不自覺掉進一個陷阱－－用我們喜歡的方式對待對方。愛就是了解他們的喜惡，並且給予他們所需；相對於我們自己也是一樣。
10.如果不懂，就發問！
不管你們在一起多久，開始了解你的伴侶永遠不嫌晚。敢於詢問他們喜歡的、讚賞的、渴望的...如果你記性不好，寫下來好讓你能隨時查看。
Trust Quotes
~ Remember, there are no mistakes, only lessons. Love yourself, trust your choices, and everything is possible. ~
Cherie-Carter Scotts
~ A man who doesn't trust himself can never really trust anyone else. ~
Cardinal De Retz
~ You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough. ~
Frank Crane
~ Trust in what you love, continue to do it, and it will take you where you need to go. ~
Natalie Goldberg
~ It takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it. ~
Anonymous
~ The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it's the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he discovers that someone else believes in him and is willing to trust him with his friend. ~
Ralph Waldo Emerson
~ Trust in dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity. ~
Kahlil Gibran
~ Trust your own instinct. Your mistakes might as well be your own, instead of someone else's. ~
Billy Wilder
~ Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string. ~
Ralph Waldo Emerson
~ Trust only movement. Life happens at the level of events, not of words. Trust movement. ~
Alfred Adler
~ To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved. ~
George MacDonald
~ Faith is not belief without proof, but trust without reservation. ~
D. Elton Trueblood
~ We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone - but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy. ~
Walter Anderson
~ Where large sums of money are concerned, it is advisable to trust nobody. ~
Agatha Christie
~ Trust only movement. Life happens at the level of events, not of words. Trust movement. ~
Alfred Adler
~ A man who doesn't trust himself can never really trust anyone else. ~
Cardinal De Retz
~ You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough. ~
Frank Crane
~ To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved. ~
George MacDonald
~ The glue that holds all relationships together - including the relationship between; the leader and the led is trust, and trust is based on integrity. ~
Brian Tracy
~ I would rather trust a woman's instinct than a man's reason. ~
Stanley Baldwin
~ One should never trust a woman who tells her real age. If she tells that, she'll tell anything. ~
Oscar Wilde
~ Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do. ~
Benjamin Spock
~ Those you trust the most can steal the most. ~
Lawrence Lief
~ Wise men put their trust in ideas and not in circumstances ~
Ralph Waldo Emerson
~ Never trust a man who speaks well of everybody ~
John Churton Collins
~ As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. ~
Garth Henrichs
~ It takes a long while for a naturally trustful person to reconcile himself to the idea that after all God will not help him ~
Henry Louis Mencken
~ A person who trusts no one can't be trusted. ~
Jerome Blattner
~ Confidence is that feeling by which the mind embarks in great and honorable courses with a sure hope and trust in itself. ~
Marcus Tullius Cicero
~ He who trusts all things to chance, makes a lottery of his life ~
Proverb
~ Distrust all those who love you extremely upon a very slight acquaintance and without any visible reason. ~
Lord Chesterfield
~ Trust not yourself, but your defects to know. Make use of every friend and every foe. ~
Alexander Pope
~ Never trust the advice of a man in difficulties ~
Aesop
~ If you trust before you try, you may repent before you die. ~
Proverb
~ The truth is that all men having power ought to be mistrusted. ~
James Madison
~ I never trust a man unless I've got his pecker in my pocket. ~
Lyndon B. Johnson
~ Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none. ~
William Shakespeare
~ Self-trust is the essence of heroism ~
Ralph Waldo Emerson
~ When a gifted team dedicates itself to unselfish trust and combines instinct with boldness and effort, it is ready to climb. ~
Patanjali
~ He who believes in nobody knows that he himself is not to be trusted ~
Berthold Auerbach
~ It is better to suffer wrong than to do it, and happier to be sometimes cheated than not to trust. ~
Samuel Johnson
~ Those who trust us educate us. ~
T.S. Eliot
~ Someone who thinks the world is always cheating him is right. He is missing that wonderful feeling of trust in someone or something. ~
Eric Hoffer
~ Trusting too much to others' care is the ruin of many ~
Benjamin Franklin
~ Don't trust in fortune until you are in heaven. ~
Proverb
~ No man is wise enough, nor good enough, to be trusted with unlimited power. ~
Charles Caleb Colton
~ Where large sums of money are concerned, it is advisable to trust nobody. ~
Agatha Christie
~ Few things help an individual more than to place responsibility upon him, and to let him know that you trust him. ~
Booker T. Washington
~ Who would not rather trust and be deceived? ~
Eliza Cook
~ Trust everybody, but cut the cards. ~
Finley Peter Dunne
~ To dream anything that you want to dream. That's the beauty of the human mind. To do anything that you want to do. That is the strength of the human will. To trust yourself to test your limits. That is the courage to succeed. ~
Bernard Edmonds
~ Who would not rather trust and be deceived? ~
Eliza Cook
~ Trust everybody, but cut the cards. ~
Finley Peter Dunne
~ The people when rightly and fully trusted will return the trust ~
Abraham Lincoln
~ Trust him not with your secrets, who, when left alone in your room, turns over your papers. ~
Johann Kaspar Lavater
~ Men trust their ears less than their eyes ~
Herodotus
~ Do not trust the cheering, for those persons would shout as much if you or I were going to be hanged. ~
Oliver Cromwell
~ The fact is there is nothing that you can trust; and that is a terrible fact, whether you like it or not. Psychologically there is nothing in the world, that you can put your faith, your trust, or your belief in. Neither your gods, nor your science can save you, can bring you psychological certainty; and you have to accept that you can trust in absolutely nothing. ~
Jiddu Krishnamurti
~ Trust no one unless you have eaten much salt with him. ~
Cicero
~ There is one safeguard known generally to the wise, which is an advantage and security to all, but especially to democracies as against despots. What is it? Distrust. ~
Demosthenes
~ One must be fond of people and trust them if one is not to make a mess of life. ~
E.M. Forster
~ Trust no one unless you have eaten much salt with him. ~
Cicero
~ One must be fond of people and trust them if one is not to make a mess of life. ~
E.M. Forster
Reference
Cherie-Carter Scotts
~ A man who doesn't trust himself can never really trust anyone else. ~
Cardinal De Retz
~ You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough. ~
Frank Crane
~ Trust in what you love, continue to do it, and it will take you where you need to go. ~
Natalie Goldberg
~ It takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it. ~
Anonymous
~ The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it's the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he discovers that someone else believes in him and is willing to trust him with his friend. ~
Ralph Waldo Emerson
~ Trust in dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity. ~
Kahlil Gibran
~ Trust your own instinct. Your mistakes might as well be your own, instead of someone else's. ~
Billy Wilder
~ Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string. ~
Ralph Waldo Emerson
~ Trust only movement. Life happens at the level of events, not of words. Trust movement. ~
Alfred Adler
~ To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved. ~
George MacDonald
~ Faith is not belief without proof, but trust without reservation. ~
D. Elton Trueblood
~ We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone - but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy. ~
Walter Anderson
~ Where large sums of money are concerned, it is advisable to trust nobody. ~
Agatha Christie
~ Trust only movement. Life happens at the level of events, not of words. Trust movement. ~
Alfred Adler
~ A man who doesn't trust himself can never really trust anyone else. ~
Cardinal De Retz
~ You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough. ~
Frank Crane
~ To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved. ~
George MacDonald
~ The glue that holds all relationships together - including the relationship between; the leader and the led is trust, and trust is based on integrity. ~
Brian Tracy
~ I would rather trust a woman's instinct than a man's reason. ~
Stanley Baldwin
~ One should never trust a woman who tells her real age. If she tells that, she'll tell anything. ~
Oscar Wilde
~ Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do. ~
Benjamin Spock
~ Those you trust the most can steal the most. ~
Lawrence Lief
~ Wise men put their trust in ideas and not in circumstances ~
Ralph Waldo Emerson
~ Never trust a man who speaks well of everybody ~
John Churton Collins
~ As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. ~
Garth Henrichs
~ It takes a long while for a naturally trustful person to reconcile himself to the idea that after all God will not help him ~
Henry Louis Mencken
~ A person who trusts no one can't be trusted. ~
Jerome Blattner
~ Confidence is that feeling by which the mind embarks in great and honorable courses with a sure hope and trust in itself. ~
Marcus Tullius Cicero
~ He who trusts all things to chance, makes a lottery of his life ~
Proverb
~ Distrust all those who love you extremely upon a very slight acquaintance and without any visible reason. ~
Lord Chesterfield
~ Trust not yourself, but your defects to know. Make use of every friend and every foe. ~
Alexander Pope
~ Never trust the advice of a man in difficulties ~
Aesop
~ If you trust before you try, you may repent before you die. ~
Proverb
~ The truth is that all men having power ought to be mistrusted. ~
James Madison
~ I never trust a man unless I've got his pecker in my pocket. ~
Lyndon B. Johnson
~ Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none. ~
William Shakespeare
~ Self-trust is the essence of heroism ~
Ralph Waldo Emerson
~ When a gifted team dedicates itself to unselfish trust and combines instinct with boldness and effort, it is ready to climb. ~
Patanjali
~ He who believes in nobody knows that he himself is not to be trusted ~
Berthold Auerbach
~ It is better to suffer wrong than to do it, and happier to be sometimes cheated than not to trust. ~
Samuel Johnson
~ Those who trust us educate us. ~
T.S. Eliot
~ Someone who thinks the world is always cheating him is right. He is missing that wonderful feeling of trust in someone or something. ~
Eric Hoffer
~ Trusting too much to others' care is the ruin of many ~
Benjamin Franklin
~ Don't trust in fortune until you are in heaven. ~
Proverb
~ No man is wise enough, nor good enough, to be trusted with unlimited power. ~
Charles Caleb Colton
~ Where large sums of money are concerned, it is advisable to trust nobody. ~
Agatha Christie
~ Few things help an individual more than to place responsibility upon him, and to let him know that you trust him. ~
Booker T. Washington
~ Who would not rather trust and be deceived? ~
Eliza Cook
~ Trust everybody, but cut the cards. ~
Finley Peter Dunne
~ To dream anything that you want to dream. That's the beauty of the human mind. To do anything that you want to do. That is the strength of the human will. To trust yourself to test your limits. That is the courage to succeed. ~
Bernard Edmonds
~ Who would not rather trust and be deceived? ~
Eliza Cook
~ Trust everybody, but cut the cards. ~
Finley Peter Dunne
~ The people when rightly and fully trusted will return the trust ~
Abraham Lincoln
~ Trust him not with your secrets, who, when left alone in your room, turns over your papers. ~
Johann Kaspar Lavater
~ Men trust their ears less than their eyes ~
Herodotus
~ Do not trust the cheering, for those persons would shout as much if you or I were going to be hanged. ~
Oliver Cromwell
~ The fact is there is nothing that you can trust; and that is a terrible fact, whether you like it or not. Psychologically there is nothing in the world, that you can put your faith, your trust, or your belief in. Neither your gods, nor your science can save you, can bring you psychological certainty; and you have to accept that you can trust in absolutely nothing. ~
Jiddu Krishnamurti
~ Trust no one unless you have eaten much salt with him. ~
Cicero
~ There is one safeguard known generally to the wise, which is an advantage and security to all, but especially to democracies as against despots. What is it? Distrust. ~
Demosthenes
~ One must be fond of people and trust them if one is not to make a mess of life. ~
E.M. Forster
~ Trust no one unless you have eaten much salt with him. ~
Cicero
~ One must be fond of people and trust them if one is not to make a mess of life. ~
E.M. Forster
Reference
2011年3月18日 星期五
這就是真實的自我
Feeeling broken
Barely holding on
But just there's something so strong
Somewhere inside me.
And I am down,but I'll get up again.
Don't count me out just yet
我傷透了心，幾乎無法站立
但心中仍有微弱聲音訴說著
深藏在心裡的真心話
雖然現在傷心難過，但我一定會痊癒
別那麼快就判我出局
I've been brought down to my knees
我曾跪倒在地
And I've been pushed right past the point of breaking.
But I can take it.
I'll be back
Back on my feet
This is far from over
You haven't seen the last of me
You haven't seen the last of me.
我曾重重被擊倒，但我仍勇敢面對
我將重回我的舞台，找回我的一切
一切都還尚未結束
這就是最真實的我
這就是最真實的我
They can
Say that
管別人怎麼說那都是流言蜚語
I won't stay around
I gonne stand my ground
You're not gonna stop me.
You don't know me,you don't know who I am.
Don't count me out so fast
我不會動搖，我有我的堅持
你對我一點影響都沒有
你毫不知道我的潛力和能耐為何
別太早就判定我失敗
I've been brought down to my knees
And I've been pushed right past the point of breaking.
But I can take it.
I'll be back
Back on my feet
This is far from over
You haven't seen the last of me
我曾跪倒在地，我曾重重被擊倒
但我仍勇敢面對，我將重回我的舞台
找回我的一切
一切都還尚未結束
這就是最真實的我
There will be no better
大好未來正在前方等待
This is not the end
I'm better now
And I'll be standing on top again.
Times are hard but
I was built tough.
I'm gonna show you all what I'm made of.
一切都還未結束，我已茁壯
我將重回顛峰
人生苦短，但我仍會全力以赴
我會告訴你我有多努力
I've been brought down to my knees
我曾跪倒在地
And I've been pushed right past the point of breaking.
But I can take it.
I'll be back
Back on my feet
This is far from over
I am far from over
You haven't seen the last of me
No,no,I'm going nowhere
我曾重重被擊倒，但我仍勇敢面對
我將重回我的舞台，找回我的一切
一切都還尚未結束
一切都還尚未結束
這才是真實的自我
我信心十足
I'm staying right here
Oh,no you won't see my fear
I'm not kidding around
Can't stop me
Can't stop me
You haven't seen the last of me
Oh,no
You haven't seen the last of me
You haven't seen the last of me
我永不放棄，我心中無懼
我認真無比
什麼都阻止不了我
絲毫都無法阻止我
這就是真實的自我
是的
這就是真實的自我
這就是真實的自我
Barely holding on
But just there's something so strong
Somewhere inside me.
And I am down,but I'll get up again.
Don't count me out just yet
我傷透了心，幾乎無法站立
但心中仍有微弱聲音訴說著
深藏在心裡的真心話
雖然現在傷心難過，但我一定會痊癒
別那麼快就判我出局
I've been brought down to my knees
我曾跪倒在地
And I've been pushed right past the point of breaking.
But I can take it.
I'll be back
Back on my feet
This is far from over
You haven't seen the last of me
You haven't seen the last of me.
我曾重重被擊倒，但我仍勇敢面對
我將重回我的舞台，找回我的一切
一切都還尚未結束
這就是最真實的我
這就是最真實的我
They can
Say that
管別人怎麼說那都是流言蜚語
I won't stay around
I gonne stand my ground
You're not gonna stop me.
You don't know me,you don't know who I am.
Don't count me out so fast
我不會動搖，我有我的堅持
你對我一點影響都沒有
你毫不知道我的潛力和能耐為何
別太早就判定我失敗
I've been brought down to my knees
And I've been pushed right past the point of breaking.
But I can take it.
I'll be back
Back on my feet
This is far from over
You haven't seen the last of me
我曾跪倒在地，我曾重重被擊倒
但我仍勇敢面對，我將重回我的舞台
找回我的一切
一切都還尚未結束
這就是最真實的我
There will be no better
大好未來正在前方等待
This is not the end
I'm better now
And I'll be standing on top again.
Times are hard but
I was built tough.
I'm gonna show you all what I'm made of.
一切都還未結束，我已茁壯
我將重回顛峰
人生苦短，但我仍會全力以赴
我會告訴你我有多努力
I've been brought down to my knees
我曾跪倒在地
And I've been pushed right past the point of breaking.
But I can take it.
I'll be back
Back on my feet
This is far from over
I am far from over
You haven't seen the last of me
No,no,I'm going nowhere
我曾重重被擊倒，但我仍勇敢面對
我將重回我的舞台，找回我的一切
一切都還尚未結束
一切都還尚未結束
這才是真實的自我
我信心十足
I'm staying right here
Oh,no you won't see my fear
I'm not kidding around
Can't stop me
Can't stop me
You haven't seen the last of me
Oh,no
You haven't seen the last of me
You haven't seen the last of me
我永不放棄，我心中無懼
我認真無比
什麼都阻止不了我
絲毫都無法阻止我
這就是真實的自我
是的
這就是真實的自我
這就是真實的自我
2011年3月17日 星期四
2011年3月16日 星期三
Farewell Phases from a Genius Co-worker
"People come, people go – they’ll drift in and out of your life, almost like characters in a favorite book. When you finally close the cover, the characters have told their story and you start up again with another book, complete with new characters and adventures. Then you find yourself focusing on the new ones, not the ones from the past." — Nicholas Sparks
我也想「去澎湖放逐」
http://www.backpackers.com.tw/forum/showthread.php?t=8297
有以下幾個建議，你可參考看看：
１、澎湖因為很豐富，不管是天然條件或是人文景觀都夠好，很適合一再來訪，
所以最好的旅遊方式是定點休閒，也就是一次找一兩個區塊，好好地玩徹 底，下次再輪其他的地方玩，不宜一次玩太多地方。你要放逐，也必須要給自己多一些流浪的時間與空間，不要把自己逼得太緊。其實很多人對澎湖有錯誤的印象，覺得它很小，應該一次就玩完，哪想到：四天還遠遠不夠呢。
２、回到你的行程上來看：你排得太緊，離島去得太多：四天的時間裏有三天要出海，不管是北海、東海或是南海，其實距離也都遙遠，不可能一次攻略玩畢。
擠在四天完成的結果是，不僅累垮自己，也不夠深度。可能結束時，會以為雞善、錠鉤是在吉貝附近，望安有著名沙尾，而險礁有綠蠵龜上岸產卵…?，對於澎湖的認識，反而更顯得表面。這樣的”玩完澎湖”，不如不要。
３、另外，不要有太多套裝行程。我建議儘可能不要參加套裝行程，讓自己悠閒地隨性晃盪，不要花錢玩那些人家為了賺錢所設計的，時間很趕，又沒有意義的玩法。寧可自己到沙灘上，撐著洋傘看半天的海，吹海風，聽海濤，更能達到放逐的目地。
４、所以，建議你別住馬公。找個靠海的民宿，好好親近海洋，享受完全不一樣的放鬆生活。興之所至，再出海去玩個一兩趟，最好是一次不要遊太多島。以南海來說，玩兩島就比四島好一些，因為您較能集中火力，好好深入當地。澎湖是的美與豐富，是很值得深度旅遊。
５、在海洋生態的部份，退潮時可以到潮間帶去觀察海洋生物，有機會就去浮潛看看，也可以利用近幾年很受好評的獨木舟去探戡一下海岸線，會讓你對澎湖有另一個面向上的認識。
６、在休閒漁業的方面，你可以問問民宿主人，哪裏可以看得到撒網補魚？可以看得到石滬抓魚？可以去牽罟與抱墩？体驗一下澎湖傳統的產業生活，那才是最在地，也是最令你回味無窮的旅行。
７、在地人文歷史的部份，我建議你有機會就去二崁古厝與中社古厝看看，可以感受得到歷史所留下的腳印，知道先民生活的足跡，也會知道澎湖之所以成為今日的樣貌，有它的道理。也可到民宿附近的漁村去，最後騎著腳踏車，褪去觀光客的氣息，感染一下漁村文化，像是：見證一下捕魚、吃魚、煮魚、曬魚做魚乾，順便帶一些魚乾回去當伴手禮，讓你的家人、朋友也嘗嘗原始的海味。
８、再建議你上”流浪鯨魚之家”網站上看看，讓你有一些不一樣的角度看澎湖，它有真正的自由行及冒險風格。
16~20度，對我來說，是恰到好處的涼爽天氣
中央氣象局的天氣預報：
地 區 : 澎湖地區
發布時間 : 2011/03/15 16:30:00
有以下幾個建議，你可參考看看：
１、澎湖因為很豐富，不管是天然條件或是人文景觀都夠好，很適合一再來訪，
所以最好的旅遊方式是定點休閒，也就是一次找一兩個區塊，好好地玩徹 底，下次再輪其他的地方玩，不宜一次玩太多地方。你要放逐，也必須要給自己多一些流浪的時間與空間，不要把自己逼得太緊。其實很多人對澎湖有錯誤的印象，覺得它很小，應該一次就玩完，哪想到：四天還遠遠不夠呢。
２、回到你的行程上來看：你排得太緊，離島去得太多：四天的時間裏有三天要出海，不管是北海、東海或是南海，其實距離也都遙遠，不可能一次攻略玩畢。
擠在四天完成的結果是，不僅累垮自己，也不夠深度。可能結束時，會以為雞善、錠鉤是在吉貝附近，望安有著名沙尾，而險礁有綠蠵龜上岸產卵…?，對於澎湖的認識，反而更顯得表面。這樣的”玩完澎湖”，不如不要。
３、另外，不要有太多套裝行程。我建議儘可能不要參加套裝行程，讓自己悠閒地隨性晃盪，不要花錢玩那些人家為了賺錢所設計的，時間很趕，又沒有意義的玩法。寧可自己到沙灘上，撐著洋傘看半天的海，吹海風，聽海濤，更能達到放逐的目地。
４、所以，建議你別住馬公。找個靠海的民宿，好好親近海洋，享受完全不一樣的放鬆生活。興之所至，再出海去玩個一兩趟，最好是一次不要遊太多島。以南海來說，玩兩島就比四島好一些，因為您較能集中火力，好好深入當地。澎湖是的美與豐富，是很值得深度旅遊。
５、在海洋生態的部份，退潮時可以到潮間帶去觀察海洋生物，有機會就去浮潛看看，也可以利用近幾年很受好評的獨木舟去探戡一下海岸線，會讓你對澎湖有另一個面向上的認識。
６、在休閒漁業的方面，你可以問問民宿主人，哪裏可以看得到撒網補魚？可以看得到石滬抓魚？可以去牽罟與抱墩？体驗一下澎湖傳統的產業生活，那才是最在地，也是最令你回味無窮的旅行。
７、在地人文歷史的部份，我建議你有機會就去二崁古厝與中社古厝看看，可以感受得到歷史所留下的腳印，知道先民生活的足跡，也會知道澎湖之所以成為今日的樣貌，有它的道理。也可到民宿附近的漁村去，最後騎著腳踏車，褪去觀光客的氣息，感染一下漁村文化，像是：見證一下捕魚、吃魚、煮魚、曬魚做魚乾，順便帶一些魚乾回去當伴手禮，讓你的家人、朋友也嘗嘗原始的海味。
８、再建議你上”流浪鯨魚之家”網站上看看，讓你有一些不一樣的角度看澎湖，它有真正的自由行及冒險風格。
16~20度，對我來說，是恰到好處的涼爽天氣
中央氣象局的天氣預報：
地 區 : 澎湖地區
發布時間 : 2011/03/15 16:30:00
日期 | 溫度 | 天氣狀況 |
|---|---|---|
03/16 星期三 |  13 ~ 17 | 多雲 |
03/17 星期四 | 13 ~ 18 | 多雲 |
03/18 星期五 |  15 ~ 20 | 多雲時陰 |
03/19 星期六 | 16 ~ 21 | 多雲時陰 |
03/20 星期日 | 17 ~ 22 | 多雲時陰 |
03/21 星期一 | 16 ~ 22 | 多雲 |
03/22 星期二 | 16 ~ 20 | 多雲 |
2011年3月15日 星期二
Life Goals
Our goals by Virginia Satir
- To help people to connect with their creative energies.
- To help people let go of what no longer fits.
- To help people reduce the negative impact of some learnings and experiences from the past.
- To help people to move beyond survival pains.
- To help people to discover their parents as people and to connect with them as human beings.
- To help people to find freedom for new choices and revised conclusions.
- To help people become clearer about their identity.
- To help people become free to experience the flow of life’s energies.
It's all about help!!
Real Freedoms
The five freedoms by Virginia Satir
- The freedom to see and hear what is here, instead of what should be, was or will be.
- The freedom to say what one feels and thinks, instead of what one should.
- The freedom to feel what one feels, instead of what one ought.
- The freedom to ask for what one wants, instead of always asking for permission.
- The freedom to take risks in one’s own behalf, instead of choosing to be only "secure" and not rocking the boat.
(adapted from Virginia Satir’s "Making Contact")
2011年3月14日 星期一
2011年3月10日 星期四
也許偶爾會忘，可是我們也總能把愛找回。
「我想要說，我原諒你們。請你們也原諒你們自己。
祝福我們彼此。
這些都已經離開了，而神也一直在我們的身邊，知道我們仍然是他深愛著的孩子。
你們值得被原諒，而我也必須放你們離開
我必須停止這樣繼續折磨自己，甚至可能是愛著我的人
我想，一定有愛在的，在那之中。
也許我們偶爾會忘記，可是我們也總是能夠把愛找回。」
祝福我們彼此。
這些都已經離開了，而神也一直在我們的身邊，知道我們仍然是他深愛著的孩子。
你們值得被原諒，而我也必須放你們離開
我必須停止這樣繼續折磨自己，甚至可能是愛著我的人
我想，一定有愛在的，在那之中。
也許我們偶爾會忘記，可是我們也總是能夠把愛找回。」
2011年3月4日 星期五
2011年3月2日 星期三
情緒之後的晴朗
昨晚跟姊姊談了很久，才把焦點回到自己身上來...這真是一個好的開始！
為了S，我難過、沮喪地哭不出來；直到看到自己情緒源頭的事件時，我突然哭了出來「怎麼這麼難啊...」，難就難在，我願意原諒了，但是事件對我的影響卻如此深遠...
我想，S對我的不尊重－－忽略我的需要、忽略我的感受，也是回應我對待我自己的方式吧！上週連續被按了兩次，我都選擇冷戰不溝通，沒想到才整理好心情準備要談，他又給了我一擊...（我覺得我的按鈕彈性都壞了XD）
這次我拼命念零極限四句箴言，在心中不斷默念...但還是很有情緒，不過並非生氣的情緒，而是受傷和委屈的情緒。
痛苦的情緒之中，我真的幾度衝動地想放棄了！覺得無法再撐下去...
後來，姊姊的陪伴和話語，協助我調整心情、察覺自己，決定心平氣和地去跟他談。哈！怎麼知道，拒絕溝通的是他呢！
還想起了吳娟瑜老師所建議的「講出感受、說出需要」。我平靜地說出心中感受，告訴他傷了我的是他忽略我的需求、還有敷衍的言詞，實際的感受是委屈、難過和失落，並且希望他下次可以耐心地跟我說明事情，同時尊重我的需要和意見。
接著，我卻覺得前所未有的輕鬆。我緩緩地說，我需要休息，如果他有什麼話想說，那就明天告訴我吧...
第二天早上，我看得出來，他很不開心。
「為什麼老是在我忙的時候，要為那些小事情來困擾我」
「感受有那麼重要嗎」
那一刻，我覺得，像是我的黑天使在告訴我，別把我自己的感受當做一回事。
我決定要勇敢，所以我很認真地說「有！因為那就是我真實的感受，就是我的一部分。如果我沒有感受，我也不會去愛了」接著他因此惱怒，認為我在無理取鬧，並且開始生氣煩躁。
奇妙的是，我並沒有因為他的生氣而擔心失去或責備自己，說出心中更多的話，並未我自己聲明立場，竟是讓我覺得渾身輕鬆...我就一個人踩著自己的步伐前進了。
我並不確定這是不是好的，我也不知道結果會是什麼。我很高興的是，我正在脫離對「他的愛」的依賴，我正在學習獨立。
為了S，我難過、沮喪地哭不出來；直到看到自己情緒源頭的事件時，我突然哭了出來「怎麼這麼難啊...」，難就難在，我願意原諒了，但是事件對我的影響卻如此深遠...
我想，S對我的不尊重－－忽略我的需要、忽略我的感受，也是回應我對待我自己的方式吧！上週連續被按了兩次，我都選擇冷戰不溝通，沒想到才整理好心情準備要談，他又給了我一擊...（我覺得我的按鈕彈性都壞了XD）
這次我拼命念零極限四句箴言，在心中不斷默念...但還是很有情緒，不過並非生氣的情緒，而是受傷和委屈的情緒。
痛苦的情緒之中，我真的幾度衝動地想放棄了！覺得無法再撐下去...
後來，姊姊的陪伴和話語，協助我調整心情、察覺自己，決定心平氣和地去跟他談。哈！怎麼知道，拒絕溝通的是他呢！
還想起了吳娟瑜老師所建議的「講出感受、說出需要」。我平靜地說出心中感受，告訴他傷了我的是他忽略我的需求、還有敷衍的言詞，實際的感受是委屈、難過和失落，並且希望他下次可以耐心地跟我說明事情，同時尊重我的需要和意見。
接著，我卻覺得前所未有的輕鬆。我緩緩地說，我需要休息，如果他有什麼話想說，那就明天告訴我吧...
第二天早上，我看得出來，他很不開心。
「為什麼老是在我忙的時候，要為那些小事情來困擾我」
「感受有那麼重要嗎」
那一刻，我覺得，像是我的黑天使在告訴我，別把我自己的感受當做一回事。
我決定要勇敢，所以我很認真地說「有！因為那就是我真實的感受，就是我的一部分。如果我沒有感受，我也不會去愛了」接著他因此惱怒，認為我在無理取鬧，並且開始生氣煩躁。
奇妙的是，我並沒有因為他的生氣而擔心失去或責備自己，說出心中更多的話，並未我自己聲明立場，竟是讓我覺得渾身輕鬆...我就一個人踩著自己的步伐前進了。
我並不確定這是不是好的，我也不知道結果會是什麼。我很高興的是，我正在脫離對「他的愛」的依賴，我正在學習獨立。
2011年3月1日 星期二
「情緒解讀」講座筆記
每天問自己：
「我早上起床就充滿感恩喜悅？」
「我看到床邊女/男人就充滿感恩喜悅？」
「我每天想到要上班和面對朋友就充滿感恩喜悅？」
「我會常常對（自己和別人）的孩子說我愛你？」
「最近一週有對自己的女/男人說我愛你？」
「最近一週有拿錢給自己的女人？是心甘情願的嗎？」==>這題只適用男人
語氣：如故意吵架激怒，可能是想遠離對方、去尋找自由
說話速度
回應時間：科學證明，如果回應速度比平常慢0.2秒，表示可能是在說謊
眼神
表情：解讀(read)他人的表情。例如，說「你每次出去都沒回來」，嚴厲的表情會給人壓力...對方就會就「聽到和看到的」，為自己辯解「我有回來啊！」；事實可能是偶爾很晚回來。
穿著：裝扮的方式和色彩代表著一個人的心情
動作
每個人有自己的地雷。例如，有些人聽到別人叫自己「肥婆」就會生氣。
檢視：聽到什麼話會最生氣？聽到什麼話會最開心？
行動：講出感覺，說出需要！例如，告訴對方「你說我肥婆讓我很生氣，請你換個方式稱呼我」
情緒是一種感受和反應。
感受
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+ 覺察 + 行動 = 成長
「情緒原點」：成長過程中，累積在潛意識的慣性情緒。(參考情緒管理學)
要常常（摸著心口）對自己說：「我配得過幸福快樂的日子」，並多去幫助別人，透過助人與分享的過程感受自己的價值和付出的喜悅。
「胎兒情緒」：在懷胎時代就從母親身上感受到的情緒，例如委屈、難過、煩躁。
情緒是會吸收的。對負面的人可以保持距離，除非自己夠正面穩定。
胎兒情緒只佔20%。人生，自己來負責！30歲以前，人生和情緒主要受原生家庭的影響；30歲之後，人生可以靠自己來改變！
「我早上起床就充滿感恩喜悅？」
「我看到床邊女/男人就充滿感恩喜悅？」
「我每天想到要上班和面對朋友就充滿感恩喜悅？」
「我會常常對（自己和別人）的孩子說我愛你？」
「最近一週有對自己的女/男人說我愛你？」
「最近一週有拿錢給自己的女人？是心甘情願的嗎？」==>這題只適用男人
- 情緒辨識
語氣：如故意吵架激怒，可能是想遠離對方、去尋找自由
說話速度
回應時間：科學證明，如果回應速度比平常慢0.2秒，表示可能是在說謊
眼神
表情：解讀(read)他人的表情。例如，說「你每次出去都沒回來」，嚴厲的表情會給人壓力...對方就會就「聽到和看到的」，為自己辯解「我有回來啊！」；事實可能是偶爾很晚回來。
穿著：裝扮的方式和色彩代表著一個人的心情
動作
每個人有自己的地雷。例如，有些人聽到別人叫自己「肥婆」就會生氣。
檢視：聽到什麼話會最生氣？聽到什麼話會最開心？
行動：講出感覺，說出需要！例如，告訴對方「你說我肥婆讓我很生氣，請你換個方式稱呼我」
情緒是一種感受和反應。
感受
-------------------------------
+ 覺察 + 行動 = 成長
- 胎兒情緒
「情緒原點」：成長過程中，累積在潛意識的慣性情緒。(參考情緒管理學)
要常常（摸著心口）對自己說：「我配得過幸福快樂的日子」，並多去幫助別人，透過助人與分享的過程感受自己的價值和付出的喜悅。
「胎兒情緒」：在懷胎時代就從母親身上感受到的情緒，例如委屈、難過、煩躁。
情緒是會吸收的。對負面的人可以保持距離，除非自己夠正面穩定。
胎兒情緒只佔20%。人生，自己來負責！30歲以前，人生和情緒主要受原生家庭的影響；30歲之後，人生可以靠自己來改變！
- 五世祖情緒
原理同胎兒情緒，原先「家族」前五代的情緒可能會遺傳/影響後代，約莫150年內。
檢視：「我的情緒活在哪個世代/時間？」
。未來情緒：擔憂。例如：「這麼晚還沒回來，不會發生什麼事情吧？」
。過去情緒：懊悔。例如：「果然又不準時回來，該不會又瞞著我去...」
。現在情緒：體驗。例如：「等他回來再說」
心平氣和，世因為情緒活在此時此刻！想法改變，壓力就會消失。
用慈悲的眼睛去祝福那些傷害我的人，告訴自己：「絕不讓過去的陰影擋住我未來的路」。
痛苦、壓抑、難受都是因為不能接受事實。接受（、理解、體諒）的速度和快樂成正比。
學會拒絕別人，不感到羞愧或內疚，臉上和心中都要充滿從容堅定的表情。
爸爸說：「對不起爸爸沒有好好關心你」
弟弟說：「姊姊對不起」
姊姊說：「妹妹不要難過，我們都是很愛你的」
- 我的家族排列
爸爸說：「對不起爸爸沒有好好關心你」
弟弟說：「姊姊對不起」
姊姊說：「妹妹不要難過，我們都是很愛你的」
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